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i'm on fetlife am under the same username as here. (please check my fet profile, as it is easier to keep up to date then here or collarspace.)
a friend said i'm a slut, or an ethical slut as he calls me.. so i was suggested to put that here, if you know what that means then yay if not them figure that part out...
I have 2 and i'm usually quiet and focused on them, when i am able to get out i like dinners, movies, shooting range, swimming... when i'm snuggled in at home for an evening, i love hot long baths with a good book and some nice fruity wine or flavored alcoholic beverage on the occasion. i also enjoy movies and snuggling up with my and just kicking back and relaxing, my fur babies included!
I'm trying to get back in to the scene but ever so slowly like a new subby learning again i figure is the best way to go. I've been so hurt in past and with my marriage, yes I'm finally divorced. i'm afraid of jumping in and trust is a major thing that has been broken repeatedly with me and i'm such a trusting person so this is a major suckage for me.
I love BDSM and most aspects that come with it in this type of lifestyle and or relationships. Although not at the risk of family or nilla friends/folk. Don't get me wrong Family and my nilla friends are important to me and if they don't wish to be exposed to this type of lifestyle choice then I will not pressure the issue on them or expose them to it per their wish.
I am now more along the lines of enjoying the Kink in the bedroom type, i'm looking for a full fledged BDSM 24/7 relationship... this hasn't worked for me in the past sadly, kink in the bed room can enough for me... It is something I enjoy. Plus i try to keep as much of my kink and bdsm stuff away from my and family as much as possible.
Since this is something I'm serious about, I am a sub. i do enjoy giving what my partner needs or enjoys if it is not in my hard limits. NOTE I AM NOT A SWITCH!!! NOT A DOMME!!!
My goals:
~ to improve myself in becoming a better sub, teach to others who have the same desire to serve their partner as I do.
~ to work on improving my self with toys that i am familiar with being used on me.
~ to find something to work on by improving my self physically and spiritually as well as mentally, by being open when i have a problem or just being open with my partner and trusting that one partner.
~ help teach others about safety, protocols, how to protect themselves, how to properly serve.
~ have my limits pushed, in play, pain tolerance up enough to enjoy a long good session and play. i no longer have a pain tolerance so pain play is debatable.
~ i'm sure i have more goals but this is all i can think of at the moment, i'll add more as time goes on and i think more on this area.
i also use sign lang.. so hummm ball gags only work at shutting my noisy mouth i can still talk with my hands :P so THERE LOL (yes this is my bratty side!)
== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
100% Submissive
100% Rope bunny
91% Voyeur
89% Degradee
84% Slave
83% Primal (Prey)
80% Vanilla
72% Exhibitionist
71% Masochist
63% Boy/Girl
48% Pet
37% Brat
32% Experimentalist
21% Ageplayer
9% Non-monogamist
2% Primal (Hunter)
2% Brat tamer
1% Daddy/Mommy
0% Rigger
0% Dominant
0% Degrader
0% Owner
0% Master/Mistress
0% Sadist
0% Switch
If you think i left anything out please email me with ideas to add and any questions you want to ask well ya know what to do :)
Just Practice at BEING SAFE, and HONEST, and OPEN COMMUNICATION and i'm sure everyone will be happy....
remember i practice the above my self in real life!
The 10 Kink Commandments:
1. All activity must be safe (we do not cause true harm), sane (we only engage in activity when we are clear of mind), and consensual.
2. We must always be respectful of our partner’s safe word (red/yellow/green) and their hard limits.
3. We only enter into activities after we have gained trust, education, and an open mind.
4. We must always be polite and ask questions.
5. We must not touch other people's equipment without permission.
6. We must always be clean, hygienic, and mindful of our own equipment.
7. We must always be mindful of aftercare.
8. We do not engage in humiliating and degrading scenes for solely our own amusement.
9. We always protect each others anonymity from the harsh eyes of the vanilla world.
10. Most importantly, we do not forget to have a good time.
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My Ideal Person:
i want someone who takes me as i am faults and all... ive learned no one is perfect and thinking that you can change a person to fit your needs and wants and etc isn't the way to go. I enjoy snuggles.. i enjoy touching and being touched, i enjoy appropriate public shows of affection.. find a person who understands my needs, and my faults and wants me the way i am is what every girl wants from her man. He supports and defends her, he listens to her suggestions and doesn't put her ideas down. i want someone who isn't gonna be jealous of who i talk with be it guy or girl.. who understands that my kids come first and isn't a competition for my attention.
Athough let me tell you what i think a Sub is to her Dom. She loves to please and serve her Dom. Always attentive and caring, over time she can anticipate her Dominant's wants and needs like little things, how and when he likes his coffee for example. She is not a doormat, she can hold conversations and has thoughts and opinions and suggestions. She can make decisions even major ones if need be. She shows her pride in her Dom by the services she offers and does for him, by acting like she is supposed to when out among BDSM folk using proper protocol and addressing Him. In the bedroom she is under His complete control, everything is His. She serves him from her heart n soul, needing to belong and loving to belong to One that fits her as much as she fits Him. Trust and honesty and communication are always secure there even if she knows she made a mistake. Her goals are set to please both Dom and herself to better things for their relationship and growth into something stronger then any metal that is forged.
A Dom, puts His sub up on a pedestal, and occasional brings her down for a spanking now and again. He understands her gift of giving Him control over her is a gift, and is something treasured. He completes her as she Him. He helps her when she needs it or if she asks for it. He guilds her where He knows she needs this or when she also asks for this. This relationship is a give and take both ways like any other. Both are equal yet not. It is complex yet simple.
out in public i am respectful unless disrespected and mistreated. My life and interests has changed alot since the multiple relationships i have had and sadly no longer interested in an open relationship so don't ask for it... as much as 3 somes and such interest me and want to explore... not at the risk of my relationship... Sorry guys/gals... not happening anymore.
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