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Information:
Gender:   Man
Birthdate:   July 25, 1966
(57 years old)
Astrological Compatibility
Lives in:   Danville, Illinois, United States
Travels to:   Madison, Wisconsin, United States
Relocate?:   Maybe/Yes
Height:   5 ft 9 in / 175-177 cm
Body Type:   Average
Smoking:   I'm a light/social smoker
Drinking:   I'm a light/social drinker
Drugs:   I don't use drugs
Education:   Some college
Race:   Caucasian
Sexual Orientation:   Straight
Speaks:   English
Hair Color:   Blonde
Hair Length :   Short
Eye Color :   Blue
Glasses or Contacts :   None


LifeStyle
Activities Enjoyed:   Prefer not to say
I think about ALT lifestyle:   All the time
Role:   Dominant
Level of Experience:   Whole adult life
Dress:   Casual
Social Orientation :   Liberal
Safe Sex:   Yes
Demeanor:   Assertive

Personal
Facial Hair: Goatee
Body Hair: Average
Body Decorations : None
Male Endowment: Long/
Thick
Circumcised: Yes
Marital Status: Single
Have Children: Yes. We do not live together.
Want Children : Maybe
Occupation: Me Work? I
Religion: Spiritual

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57 year old Man in Danville, Illinois, United States Looking For: Women or Couples (2 women)

Profile for ALovingDom4You
OK let me start by saying where you live, your age, they are not important to me as I am able to travel for extended periods though it might be possible, depending on where you are from that I " might " ask you to come here or meet somewhere neutral for a first meeting, again I say " might " ask you to, " might " being the key word since I do like to travel. I also need to state I have enjoyed on several occasions the pleasure of a 24/7 BDSM relationship. Ultimately I am seeking a LTR, 24/7 relationship but presently open to other relationship possibilities should the circumstances fit the crime as they say! LOL If you like what you read here contact me. I prefer that someone write me first as it shows me you are interested in getting to know me as a friend and or possibly more. And please when writing take a few minutes to tell me something about yourself and what you are looking for. And if you don't have a photo of yourself on your profile please send one or two as I like to know who I am talking to and they will be kept confidential as I know some people don't want others knowing they are on here. If by chance I do write you first, well that is rare and you are someone I would really like to know. If I wink it also means I am interested in possibly hearing from you. So feel free to drop me a line. I should say for some reason my profile gets a fair amount of views, yet sadly few of you ladies ever write. Although I have been told more then once that my profile and my experience in the life style can intimidating to some people, especially newer people. There is really no reason to be shy, drop me a line and say hello and you will see I am just a laid back kind of guy who loves to meet new people and make new friends. Dominant, Yes, a stick in the mud No. I stuck up or conceited, nor commanding right off the bat like some of the wannabe so called Dominants on this site. I am open to talking to everyone even if it is only with the intention of you wanting to make a new friend. I am very approachable and its fine to just page me via my cam or drop me an email with a few lines to say Hello. Please include a photo or two as I love to know who I am talking to as I already mentioned and I will do the same when I reply. Also everything I have wrote here is open to discussion and should not be taken literally. I will not pass up the right person because they have more then one or can not have anymore. If you are slightly over weight fine as long as you hold it well. I write about an ideal here I may most likely never find. Also if you are looking for a friend, lover, Daddy Dom, even " True " Master or any combination thereof lets talk. I am also very open to teaching other about the life style but will not be a cyber Dominant to someone. Though I will gladly share information and input about the life style for those wanting to learn more. Feel free to write me with any questions one may have to get my opinion on them. I am certainly always open to talking to anyone and making friends. I am always willing to talk to those both experienced and those new and wanting to learn more about BDSM and its various aspects. If you are new to the lifestyle no problem, always a pleasure to talk to you. Sorry ladies I am not a cyber Dominant, real life only, but will seriously discuss real world topics with you and joke around as friends online. I know some of the above is redundant, but just making sure I am being clear. ;) I started my own group for people who enjoy Daddy / role play between two consenting adults and who also enjoy Loving Domestic Discipline [group 27744 it can be found clicking here]. But please, finish reading my profile silly! Then come see me. ;) It Is Not a cyber sex group, none allowed there. It is meant to be informative and I am sure you will enjoy some of the posts there whether into these aspects or not since they concern BDSM in general and other relationship aspects. Daddy / is not always about an older guy having a younger girl to play with, [B]and it certainly isn't about incest! [/B] And for many parts of BDSM most certainly come into play. I always free to answer questions concerning Daddy / and LDD / Loving Domestic Discipline for anyone interested in learning more. I have been involved in this lifestyle since I was a . No joke. I also used to do a lot of writing back in the early days of the online BDSM movement and used to run my own web site called Master's Pet which I no longer operate. If you can find some old copies of BDSM Life Style Magazine I wrote for it for every month for the 5 years it was in print from 1998 to 2003. I have had many wonderful experiences over the years teaching women about submission and slavery and even taught a few men and women about being a good Dominant. I enjoy teaching other about the life style and mentor several people presently. Mentor does not mean Master them, or me having sex with them! If you don't know what a Mentor is ask me and I will send you complete information so you can learn about. Having a mentor is a good thing, and place to start. Especially if you are new to all this. I have had the pleasure of real life 24/7 D/s relationships and some Daddy / relationships. Most of my relationships wind up being long term. The only real short term relationships I have had, which really weren't that short in the end were with woman wanting to learn and experience the life style which was lovely and something I am open to doing again. I don't do, never have, and never will do the one night stand thing. Not my style and believe me I have had more chances to have one then most men should. Just lucky I guess! ;) I am a Dominant by nature and choice. I did not get into the lifestyle just because it interested me or was because I was looking for easy sex, or even Kinky sex. It is a part of who I am. I am very fortunate to of been born this way, to be a natural Dominant, and as such I am a natural born leader. I am comfortable in this role in life. I am a very honest and loyal person who believes in friends and family. I am also very family orientated if this matters to you. I am not here to BS anyone and I am not looking for any BS. So if you are not serious about the lifestyle or learning more about it for real please don't contact me. With me it is what you see is what you get for the most part. Though not a wild man or crazy person I am all about enjoying life in all its forms to its fullest. I will be myself as we get to know one another, I don't put on aires or pretend to be something or someone I am not and neither should you! Just be yourself and I promise you we will get along wonderfully. Though I can be very strict and demanding I am a rare combination who is a very loving and caring man. I am extremely romantic, passionate, Highly Sexual. As much as I adore a good play scene I also love to cuddle, kiss, walk arm in arm and romantic evenings. Even candle light dinners with a good bottle of wine or champagne or cuddling up to watch a good movie. Do not get me wrong, this doesn't make me a push over or submissive in any way. Trust me when I say, and you will come to see I simply can not be placed into any stereotypical category of men or Dominants out here. I am truly unique and have been told so by many, many women so I will assume it is true. I think this holds true myself. I am a capable cook in the kitchen. My musical taste are varied and picky about Country Music and do not listen to . Movies, as long as it is good and I even watch so called chick flicks. I am not real fond of musicals. I am pretty well versed on world events and the state of the environment, and have a better then average understanding of the law and medicine among other subjects. I am also told I am a fairly darn good arm chair Psychologist. Kind of have to be in order to be a good Dominant or Master. LOL I think it is a un-written law or requirement somewhere. You may think I am crazy, but I also slightly Psychic at times, and can read people fairly quickly and easily. Sometimes I am fooled, at least online, but this has only ever happened two or three times in all my years online. LOL and I have been online since before people most knew what online or the Internet was. Lets see. I am slow to anger, and would never punish someone in anger, slightly angry perhaps I would. I find I get along well with most anyone though other men with strong personalities can be a problem no matter how hard I try to get a long with them. Maybe they feel threatened? Who the Hell knows. LOL For a living, well I am an investor, so yes I have money and I am not looking for someone to be with me because I do. Someone who just wants financial and emotional security in a LTR is fine. Doesn't every woman want someone who can provide for them and take care of them? And not just in material ways! I am a semi retired modeling agent and photographer. This is the main reason where you live doesn't matter as I can pretty much travel as I like and work from anywhere. If you can travel as well this is great. I am also very charity minded so you know. It would be nice if you were also. Now I should state I am extremely open minded about my partners wants, needs, and desires and as such though I am not a true Sadist. I will say if it fits into who you are and you are a masochist this is fine and we can explore your pain thresholds, I have owned pain sluts. Believe me I know how to uniquely and masterfully deliver the pain you desire and need. I just don't want someone who is into pain all the time as I am more into Erotic pain other then extreme during play. OK OK OK! I know some of you masochist claim extreme pain is Erotic pain for you. I understand your views, but do not agree completely but believe me when I say, if this is what you crave it is what you will get with no regrets on my part as long as you can offer and deal with the softer side of BDSM as required. I kind of need this balance as I do have a darker, sadistic side that once released with a woman who appreciates it can be hard to put this Genie back into its bottle so I tend to refrain from releasing him. Be sure you want to open that bottle if it is what you desire. I also need some form of balance between a BDSM and a vanilla relationship. No sane, mentally healthy person can be what is called ON 24/7 in their role. I may update as time goes on but the best way to know me is to drop me a line. Email and chatting, even telephone is the best way to get to know me and I you. You will not be sorry you wrote me. I am not looking to talk to someone that if we do click on online and via phone who is not willing to meet within a reasonable period of time as a meeting is worth everything and we will see if we have that special chemistry needed for this type of relationship, any serious relationship really. It will also save us a lot of time in deciding if we are right for one another. I Am Not looking for one night stands! I am open to a Safe regular partner but I am really seeking someone for a long term, committed relationship. If you are new, wonderful, we have a world to explore together and for me to show you. If you are experienced, great, then you somewhat know what to expect so lets have fun and share a Hell of a lot of life's pleasures together! Let me close with saying if you are looking for someone who can teach you all about this life style I am open to this type of arrangement. But do not write me asking me to " Train " you since I can not train you to be who and what you are if you are actually a submissive. The term training is Bullshit! Training is more for Pony Girls and Boys where they are taught how to Prance and much more, and other very specialized forms of BDSM. Training does not apply to women who are sexually submissive or sexual slaves or even masochists or other. Beware of people saying they can train you! They obviously have no real clue about the origins of BDSM and real Old World Practices and more or they would never use that term. I can't train you to be who and what you are naturally as I said. But I can teach you about BDSM and give you the experience and experiences you need to help discover yourself and to grow into the submissive or slave you desire to be. So if you are looking to submit to a wonderful person so you can learn and discover yourself, your true nature and be guided to becoming what you long to be I welcome getting to know you. I look forward to hearing from you, and please don't be shy. I have an open mind and am open to many possibilities. I wish all of you here the best of luck in finding that person that is right for you since I know I am not every woman's cup of tea. ;) Be well, John My own Personal Qoutes: Life is an adventure best explored with a friend or lover and if they happen to be both then you have the best of both worlds. Seduce the mind and the body will follow. [if254 1]

My Ideal Person:
First and most importantly you are Disease and Drug Free Like myself and you use birth control other then condoms! This is a must as I am very allergic to Latex and the Nononoxyl #9 used on condoms these days in the lubricant and certain foam and insert style birth control. Hey if you smoke pot now and again I can care less but no serious drugs and Do Not Smoke It Around Me! You are willing to, at my expense prove you are STD/STI free if asked since I don't feel like getting HIV, HPV or Herpes or anything else! Ultimately I am seeking an exclusive D/D, D/S or M/S relationship and won't even consider a lady looking to have more then one man in her life at a time. If I ever discover there is someone else I will drop you without warning, no second chances!

I do have a preference for Petite Woman, 5' 4" and under though have been with woman taller then myself. I am 5' 9" and HWP. Petite women are my preference and I can not help but adore them. You are attractive, above average looking or you have a unique, yet attractive look. You are in good shape, not really over weight, I can handle slightly plump if you are fit, and plan on staying in good shape! You have a good shapely figure with pretty eyes and a smile that can light up a room! My lady has to have great legs as I am an a complete eyes and legs man! Wearing glasses can actually be a plus in some cases. Being a leg man such as I am I desire you to be fond of wearing short skirts and dresses and in the evenings fond of wearing sexy or classy lingerie whenever possible. Leather or Latex outfits are also welcome. I know we all have our days when we want to run around in sweat pants or jeans and I am good with this. Any latex outfits can not be rubberized on the outside, they must be of the style that is polished latex, you will know it as it has a shine to it.

If you are not a woman of refined tastes this is fine, you will become so in time, this would really refer to the more younger women out there reading this yet I know some of you more mature ladies have not had the chance to experience a more enriching or cultured life. You should know when to be play coy, be demure, or even flirt a little with someone other then myself when we are in a business setting / event and the moment calls for it. I need a woman like this by side because of my position in life.

I need something more, a woman of class and substance or who truly desires to attain such status in life, who is looking to be pampered and spoiled freely and at my discretion! You will of course be expected to serve, pamper and spoil me in return. I need someone who can be my friend, lady, lover, and of course submissive or slave, and at times my baby girl to love and spoil just as you would love and spoil me.

In the bedroom I am by no means a submissive man, don't even consider suggesting I do so. I do not Switch! If you are a Switch I can meet you as equals, and I can Top you, but not submit to you in any way. I have vast experience in BDSM and am Dominant. Though I love a woman who is a like a wild cat in bed begging to be tamed I like women who are submissive, even a slave who is a very giving lover and playmate / session mate. I am able to meet my lover as equals when it comes to making love and in life and this is my preference, as people we are equals, as Dominant and Submissive or Slave just know you place, even outside a session and play since I will certainly know mine. Trust me when I say I am a excellent lover and love to please my lover as well be pleased myself so I can pretty much promise you won't find me lacking in the love making or sessioning departments. I am not trying to brag here, just going by experience. If you are a little or very insatiable this works since I can also be so.

It would be best if I could find someone willing to relocate, though I may be willing to myself for the right woman depending on the circumstances. If you have a child this is fine but if you have more then one it could be a deal breaker and I am afraid we might only ever be Dom/sub, or Master and slave, or just lovers. Sorry I may want my own children with the right lady, not someone else's even though I do love children. Just not sure, and it would depend on the woman, circumstances, and my attraction to her and her nature that would help me decide about you if you have " children ". I do have a son who lives on his own so me having another child with someone is not a must. Ultimately I would love a 24/7 situation and would like a woman who will be there as I require her to be, or when she can if it is otherwise.

If we develop a real and loving relationship you will be the most cherished Rose in my garden and I will carefully and attentively care for and protect you with great passion and the most sincere love you will ever know. This I can promise you. Though I have my faults and will upset you at times I am sure you will discover that for every bad moment we will have thousands of happy ones. I believe that if we are right for one another you would help to complete me as a man and Master and I will help to complete you as a submissive woman. We will truly become as one heart, one mind, one soul drawn together in a sincerely passionate love few people will ever know. Is this is a dream? Not at all as I believe it can be real and have known this kind of love with a young woman I was to marry some years ago. Before we could marry she was taken from me and this world, and all who loved her. So I know I can find this kind of love again and maybe it will be with you? Listen, I am a true romantic, with a passionate, sometimes poetic soul even though I am a picky, demanding and strict Dominant. Be my everything and I will be yours in return as this is what true love is. A Great and lasting relationship is one based on love, honesty, and mutual respect as well good, open and honest communication. Wouldn't you agree? True love can never be one sided as we both know. True love is tender and kind, never demanding, finding compromise together where others can not, sometimes finding compassion and forgiveness where others could not. True love is to be able to be free enough, and understanding enough of each other to communicate freely about anything and everything open and honestly as this is so very important to a lasting relationship.

Good luck and don't be shy! Don't write me a simple letter when contacting me as I will not reply! I want to know about you and what you are looking for so be open, honest, and descriptive. I need someone I can converse with and share life with so your letter should be a reflection of this and what I am looking for as should your profile. If you profile doesn't have any photos on it include at least one showing your face when writing, of course full body photos are very welcome! Feel free to ask me anything. Your age, your location, your bust size are non factors for me but having more then one child at home could be a deal breaker if you are looking for a LTR possible 24/7 relationship and I will let you know if it is so don't let it stop you from writing me! Take a chance! Sure a beautiful face and pleasing figure will certainly get my attention but won't keep it for long so I need someone I can have more then a play partner / sexual relationship with, or for arm candy. I need someone where we have great chemistry in and out of the bedroom, someone I can converse and get along with, and whose company I really enjoy. It will be a loving, kind, sensually submissive, sexual, romantic and compassionate woman who gets my attention. In the end it will be your nature that wins me over and maybe even my heart if this is your desire.


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