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slaaf85_91 61M
135 posts
1/27/2017 4:56 am
What to do after unsave sex?

Yesterday I visited the gay sauna and a guy got interest in me and gave me compliments on my body. He grabbed me few times pushing his body against mine, feeling at my penis with his fingers. He had a towel around but I could feel his hard penis.

He went with me in the sauna cabin, another couple left and I was alone with him. He asked if I was interested in sex and if he could touch me. I suggested he could give my back some massage. So he came behind me while I bend over on the wood in the sauna. I started to work on my shoulders. I could feel his penis against my legs and buttock. Suddenly he pressed my chest on the wooden furniture keeping me immobilized with his two arms. I felt his penis pulling between my legs. My first reaction was to say I was okay for me to have sex, but then I felt his penis going through the muscles at my ass. I wanted to insist to take a break to put a condom, but just 4 or 5 strokes I could feel him ejaculating inside me. He had me bare! He stayed a while with his penis inside me until I felt his erection was weakening and his penis got softer and out of my ass.

Altogether barely 2 minutes, and my first thought was when I could have myself tested for possible infection. The guy gave me a short spanking on my ass as kind of thanking and said I was a good . I told him he should have taken me with a condom, but he said I should not worry about anything. He went to take a shower. I had the unpleasant feeling of his slimy liquid in my ass that feels like you must go urgent to toilet. I went to toilet to evacuate his sperm and to clean my ass. When I was ready the guy had disappeared.

It was a while ago I had unsafe sex. I call it accidents. Going nude in gay bar to seduce other guys, some say that I provoke and ask for this. But when this happens how do you feel?
Feel guilty and ashame
Feel upset and abused
Feel afraid about health
Don't care just want to have pleasure
Other feelings? Please comment


Being different from the majority of people as homosexual my pleasure is in being used by others...


slaaf85_91 61M
447 posts
2/3/2017 9:25 am

When I told a guy that few days before I got someone's sperm dumped in my ass he pushed me away and said he would look further for another bottom. He did not dare to go in me with a condom... This made me feel like if my body was contaminated and a risk.

Being different from the majority of people as homosexual my pleasure is in being used by others...


rosaenaluin 65F
10827 posts
2/15/2017 7:06 am

when i have had unsafe sex, (that must have been around 2009) i went to the doctor immediately .

That means, for aids testing, you have to wait for 3 months i think it was, the other dirty diseases you can test earlier...
I dont like it when things go wrong, when a condom bursts.
My sexual health is very important to me.

Some things are cureable, some not! so better be safe then sorry..

No sexual warts, no chlamydia, no herpes! Thank you!

No safe sex? not wanting to get tested? no sex at all.
You might want to gamble with your health what you like, I dont!
I have selfcontrol.


slaaf85_91 replies on 2/16/2017 9:10 am:
You are absolutely right, I must wait now before I can be tested for aids. The man who dumped his sperm in me was a married 50+ who searched for male sex while being inexperienced. I hope he was in good health.

Times changed a lot, homosexual men became much more careful. I was 19 when my sexual curiosity got me to seek experience with mature men. I was unaware about any risks and I was 22 before I saw a condom. That was in 1985 my first time ever in a gay sex club, there I got educated about health risks, but even then most interaction was without any condoms. I must have been very lucky. I'm 54 now, past 30 years there was a big change in mentality among gay men. Accidents like I had, happen, it is not the first time for me. Again months of uncertainty!

rosaenaluin 65F
10827 posts
3/9/2017 7:26 am

i understand, you can not walk around with a build in condom!

The fast sex contacts are the more dangerous, you dont have any contact adress, or telephone nummer, when things go wrong, you can not contact him...
so he will spread the "news" around him, without knowing! too bad!!

Maybe even give it to his wife!?

Being risk aware and going for the sex only contacts is a bit difficult i think...
stay positive! keep the faith alife!


slaaf85_91 replies on 3/11/2017 1:53 am:
Meanwhile my blood test of begin March was okay, but it will be June before I can be sure. Because of my lifestyle I get myself frequently tested, not only blood tests, but I have a urologist who test some discretion from my prostate, I have also a check by a dermatologist. I had a number of treatments over the years like for Chlamydia, antibiotics, got my penis treated with some acid product to remove some resistant infection ... A doctor said that my lifestyle requires the same follow up as anyone who serves in prostitution, even with less frequent contacts. Years ago a doctor, now retired, had registered in my medical file 'prostitution' as my profession.

I openly tell guys that flirt with me when I had unsafe sex and not yet sure about my health status. This scares certain men who wish me good luck and look further for somebody else, but for most it is no problem to play with me with a condom.

rosaenaluin 65F
10827 posts
3/27/2017 9:32 am

i understand, it is part of your lifestyle, you do what you can, with or without a condom.... good luck and have fun!


slaaf85_91 61M
447 posts
6/20/2017 8:50 pm

I got my recent tests and now I can be sure all is okay.

Being different from the majority of people as homosexual my pleasure is in being used by others...



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