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EnthrallLady 53F  
41 posts
9/5/2019 3:39 am
And The Search Goes On!


I've had a lot of men claiming to be Dom's but the one claiming to be a Daddy Dom that makes up his own protocol really made me gag. Even as a newbie there are meeting and greeting protocol. You don't push some by calling a lg/s esclava (slave). I felt tainted by being called slave when I am only a submissive/lg. I asked him not to contact me yet he did. I forced the fact that I am a submissive not a slave and apparently he doesn't know the difference. Especially when he said that is what I was here for, esclava. This predictor after only one thing and this time it isn't me. Beware of someone saying he's a Dom when clearly he is on a power trip or out to hurt someone.

This is EnthrallLady reminding her ALT family to be safe most especially newbies like me!

DancingDom 74M
22475 posts
9/5/2019 4:04 am

Find the kind of person who matched your needs, desires, and overall is compatible. I suggest always to evaluate first on the day to day vanilla stuff. You do the questioning and let them reveal themselves. Never tell then what your preferences are, . Otherwise they parrot back to you what you want to hear. I have a hunch you will be fine.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


EnthrallLady replies on 9/5/2019 5:04 am:
Thanks for the helpful info. Luckily this guy just kept asking for my name when he said I was rude to him. He probably didn't take sarcasm from a sub very well.

atouch_01 67M
312 posts
9/5/2019 4:57 am

Great advice DancingDom!


EnthrallLady 53F  
30 posts
9/5/2019 5:08 am

Beware this guy found his way into my mailbox. Sometime I feel like this could be a waste of time. Then I think of all the terrific people I've met and realize my life is now richer.


Gottin_Himmel 69F  
2635 posts
9/5/2019 5:09 am

Is this the guy who starts off by typing, "Greetings, sub"?

I told him that all my friends call me Hoagie.

He left.


fattedick 65M

9/5/2019 5:18 am

Good Luck alot of sickos out there . Found to people by accident not on this site .


ArtEroticMagic 59M

9/5/2019 6:08 am

trippin


dn2domu 51M

9/5/2019 6:09 am

Some people just don't get it.

There is a BIG DIFFERENCE between a sub and a slave.

Boundaries and respect must be honored and maintained at all times.

I hope this doesn't discourage you from indulging your fantasies...


EnthrallLady replies on 9/5/2019 8:17 am:
The bad seed isnt going to stop me from becoming the girl/submissive I'm meant to be.

EnthrallLady 53F  
30 posts
9/5/2019 8:14 am

No this guy said come here little girl in Spanish. I really loved his line that he makes his own protocols. It shows he has no idea about the ALT lifestyle.


lowrider2014 63M
94 posts
9/5/2019 8:34 am

Yes from all the posts and replies to pic's, I think there are some very scary people out there and on here. It is refreshing to me to find out that I am not the only one that feels that way.


EnthrallLady replies on 9/5/2019 9:16 pm:
Don't let these type of fake lifestyler ruin your possible at a chance for finding yourself and possibly your future partner(s). Hang in there. Just don't give pics or names until you feel ready.

alwaysassertive 63M

9/5/2019 9:59 am

I've only had a problem with one one person and she is a real psychopath. She even found me on Quora and followed me there, but hasn't contacted me there ...maybe she's given up.


olderdaddy_63 68M

9/5/2019 7:29 pm

    Quoting Gottin_Himmel:
    Is this the guy who starts off by typing, "Greetings, sub"?

    I told him that all my friends call me Hoagie.

    He left.
Good one 'hero'


EnthrallLady 53F  
30 posts
9/5/2019 9:09 pm

No he wrote in Spanish to "come here little girl." Then referred to me as esclava (slave) stating that was why I was here. No this guy had a personality of that put me off in more ways than one! I'm a kind enough person not to list his handle here.


ZoddMorgotha 38T
42 posts
9/5/2019 11:57 pm

Caution is good...


steelcager 61M
1996 posts
9/6/2019 7:10 pm

In my view, there needs to be a foundation for a building of trust. This takes time, so get to know each other on a personal level and look for compatibility first, then, if that goes well, everything else will follow naturally.



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