Blog : Bullies are not dominants

26 posts
6/19/2018 7:28 am

Bullies are not dominants

When one is a bully they lack control over themselves. If one lacks control over themselves how can they possibly have control over another? A very essential ingredient to dominance "Control". Don't be fooled by bullies! I see so many mistake being a bully as dominance in some weird way that they have this great power over another. It's not true at all, they have no power.

A real dominant doesn't need to knock one down to gain control. Infact a real dominant exudes it from their core. They don't have to demand it, it is given to them. A real dominant is confident in themselves. They have a calming nature about themselves and the ability to uplift another cause they know that is far more rewarding then knocking one down.

slaveforyou365 63M

4490 posts
6/19/2018 8:02 am

Slave rick

DancingDom 74M

22530 posts
6/19/2018 8:34 am

Very good post. Sadly, lots of women for for the idea a dominant needs to be like that. The submissives eventually learn they are just asshats.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"

Lady_Pheonix 54F

63 posts
6/19/2018 10:01 am

I remember a friend of Mine expressing the thought that women should be more uplifting for each other, I totally agreed with not only her thought, but her reasoning, reading this, I know her reasoning is still of the highest order,,, Kudo's sunnysin xx

BWC60313 45M

6/19/2018 12:49 pm

You are so right

Silver_core 57M

301 posts
6/19/2018 3:38 pm

Quite right, and to turn it around, Dominants are not bullies.

Brandalynna

6/20/2018 8:42 am

Truth

HisSweetSins replies on 6/20/2018 12:28 pm:
So true

Brandalynna

6/20/2018 8:43 am

Its a two way street Dom had to treat you equal.

Brandalynna

6/20/2018 8:45 am

Trust is Earned. Respect is Given. Loyalty is Demonstrated. Betrayal of one is to lose all three. BDSM VS ABUSE They are not the same. key of Elements of BDSM -Communication -Consent -Trust -Respect ----------------------------------- key of elements of abuse -Physical/Emotional Abuse -Fear of partner -No communication or consent -No trust or respect ------------------------------- BDSM is the pleasure of both parties ------------------------------- Abuse causes unwanted pain to one or more parties. ------------------------------------------ Keep in mind distinct difference between fearing partner and fearing pain for example. I flinch when I am spanked Despite the fact I asked to be spanked and I enjoy being spanked. Its still hurts and the body still has fearful reaction. However I trust my partner and do not fear her for she respect my boundaries.


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